When you have children, it’s possible that you forget the days that despite the demanding daily schedule, you always found time to spend with your partner.
Being a parent often gets you carried away so much that you tend to forget your role as a wife. Along with other needs that you may have. The most important thing is to create the most ideal situation so that you balance your life between these two roles. A tender and affectionate marriage is the foundation of any great family. Children are the manifestation of this love. Career supports the love and external factors cultivate the marriage creating opportunities to create a stronger bond between the two partners.
In order to achieve this successful work life balance, you have to be careful and make sure you have a healthy and happy marriage. Authors of the best seller book “Run Like a Mother : How to Get Moving – and Not Lose Your Family, Job, or Sanity”, suggest the following three basic principles:
If you want to have a successful home, children, career and opportunities, remember how you used to act when you were single. Make the person you love most, your very first priority. Play with your husband, dream together a bright future and sleep together. Sleeping is not only important for the children. It works wonders for the couple too. Never lose a chance to get in his arms after a difficult day at work. It’s so relaxing that you will immediately feel safe and secure. It will loosen you up. And when it does, you will be ready to express your feelings again freely and openly.
As time goes by, most people tend to get frustrated and angry with the things they don’t posses. Don’t be that person. You are better than that. Step up and say no. You deserve better. Change your attitude today. Don’t judge your hubby all the time. Try to thank him for every good move he makes. Of course he is not perfect. But always try to find the good in him, and appreciate what he gives you. Love him for what he is and be grateful for that. Remember why you chose him in the first place. Was it because it he was doing the dishes? Hell no! Was it because he was good with the iron? I don’t think so. He was cool and cute, strong and confident. Write down a list of all the stuff that rocked your world when you met him. Spend 15 minutes actually getting a pen and a paper, do this exercise and come back. See the difference? Being grateful is so important these days, even when most people forget about it. Let’s take 5 minutes each day to remind ourselves the good stuff. It will change your life!
Sometimes, when you are trying to show your love, you get lost in translation. Why don’t you just ask your partner how he feels instead of trying to relentlessly guess what’s in his mind. This can make you paranoid. Relax and let him do the talking. I know it will be hard. Human beings like to jump into conclusions. And they are very good at that. They think they already know the answer. Well, it’s not entirely true! Asking him openly what you can do to make him feel loved will undoubtedly get an honest response. If you wish to have a relationship that covers your emotional, psychological and physical needs, you have to be more open and honest.
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